New intentions set, she “wrote down every little thing I wished in a future husband,” she told The Knot in 2019. However she knew what she actually wished was to satisfy him in just a few years, perhaps a decade. “I did not wish to date,” she stated. “I wished to be single.” 

Someplace destiny was listening—and laughing. 

As a result of inside a 12 months, she discovered herself volunteering at a church, her return to her Southern Baptist roots coming at her mother’s urging after what she referred to as a “little problem with some tequila.” 

It was at that New York Metropolis chapel, on an evening dubbed “Porn Sunday,” when “ex-porn stars got here in and talked about how their life had been modified by church and god,” Graham advised InStyle UK, that she first got here face-to-face with Ervin, an evangelical with an MFA in social documentary filmmaking and a charismatic spirit. 

“One Sunday my volunteer place was to face within the elevator welcoming folks, passing out sweet and pushing the button to the eighth flooring,” she wrote in her e-book, excerpted by Glamour. “When two tall males walked in, I did not bat an eye fixed. One nudged the opposite and stated, ‘Should you do not discuss to her, I’ll.’ His buddy left the elevator, however he stayed on.”